My story in a nutshell...

These days, I work as a published author, educator, and professional trainer for good quality, generally capable single men who love women but struggle in the relationship space - not only because of the craziness out there in the dating and relationships arena - but also because of debilitating personal issues such as shyness, awkwardness and social anxiety around attractive females, underdeveloped interpersonal skills, low self-esteem in terms of masculine worth, and "Nice Guy Syndrome."

In the beginning...

I do not start out well in life.

Due to a pattern of trauma in childhood, I suffer a catastrophic mental and emotional breakdown as a 5 year old.

I become so ashamed of who I believe I am, that I adopt a false persona to hide behind. I become a false person who lives a lie, and as such, I cut myself off from the possibility of having authentic relationships at all - and certainly not any kind of meaningful, opposite-sex, romantic relationships.

My personality fails to develop normally and I end up spending over 3 decades trapped in chronic depression, chronic loneliness and isolation from the human race, bondage to destructive addictions, and gross failure at everything in life that matters.

But I Make it and Recover...

Intitally, I do not know what I am doing and so I try some quite dangerous, potentially fatal "outside the box" strategies on my way to getting my right mind back, but I learn, survive, and eventually prosper.

The experience of walking the walk of recovery and healing from a devastated life, and then transforming it into one of peace, confidence, and fulfillment, gives me a very fine-grained and powerful appreciation of what it takes to change on the inside, so as to become peaceful, confident and successful on the outside.

Now I give back...

I am alive and well today, because in spite of everything, there is still goodness in the world. If not for that, I would have been in the ground for a long time now.

Therefore, I regard it as my responsibility to honour such goodness by doing what I can to help others who have been similarly assaulted and damaged by the madness out there that wants control over your heart, your mind, your soul, and your money, far over and above your well being.

My Approach...

You may be able to tell that I do it the hard way in terms of transforming my seriously damaged and dysfunctional mental state, my catastrophically low self-esteem, and my total lack of a reality-based, working knowledge of male/female dynamics, into peace, confidence and relationship success.

The reason I am able to do this essentially on my own, is because in spite of everything about me that trips me up and causes me to lurch from one crisis to the next, I still retain a natural intellectual gift that, while still damaged by early life trauma, works sufficiently well for me to engage in an educational process concerning the workings of the mind and emotions.

I start out making all the mis-interpretations and mis-understandings in terms of my studies that are possible - and I pay for this dearly in terms of the painful mistakes I then make in the real world.

Nevertheless, in the end I develop a very precise and fine-grained appreciation of what it takes to not only master the interpersonal skills that are necessary for relationship success, but critically, the "inner game" discipline over thinking and feeling that is the source of all those subtle, non-verbal signals that females are so good at reading.

I go very deep if necessary...

We are all different, but we are all on the same kind of continuum.

Probably the most powerful lesson I learn as a man on my own transformational journey, is that psychologically, we are made up of layers like an onion such that it is not possible to develop a new and better identity that works in the real world, if we are not open to a) the existence of those deeper layers, and b) are not willing to do what it takes to engage with them and cooperate with them in order to bring about the life changes we most desire.

My process is not for everyone..

Make no mistake, my process is not for the lazy, or unmotivated. It takes focus and work and the willingness to be uncomfortable in the real world, until the inner work beds in.

The upside is that the process is reality-based and reliable - it always works as long as you do what is required, no ifs, buts, or maybes.

Your particpation in a 5 day tiny challenge is to provide you with a practical taste of it which is potentially life-changing in itself.